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Wedding Planning Melt Down!

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Image: Pinterest Well, it finally happened. My fiancé and I are in the midst of planning our wedding, and we had the epic fight that everyone I know who has planned a wedding told me about (most told me after I relayed this story and told me it was completely normal, which was encouraging!) I thought I was immune, since I'm a couples therapist, which I realize now makes me sound ridiculous 😀 I work with couples all the time! Surely I can handle my own feelings and take my own advice. Oh, if only it were that easy! What I failed to appreciate beforehand was just how much emotional energy goes into planning a wedding. Suddenly our conversation about table shapes and the pros and cons of a wedding cake, took on a life of their own. When my ideas were not initially met with enthusiastic support, I was absolutely crushed! I had been working on this plan for the wedding for so long, that I wasn't expecting him to disagree with me. His valid questions a
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Feeling Like A Fraud

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Feeling Like A Fraud: Dealing with Imposter Syndrome "I feel like I'm terrible at my job. Why did they hire me?" "I'm unhappy but I don't think things can change." "I can't believe they would want to date me." "I'm just not good enough." Have you ever struggled with thoughts like these? I've heard many of my clients express such doubts in my office. I've heard the same hushed confessions from friends and even had similar thoughts myself! Even therapists aren't immune to anxiety! 😊 Feelings of self-doubt, a drive toward perfectionism, and difficulty acknowledging one's abilities are all hallmarks of imposter syndrome , a phenomenon first described by Drs. Imes and Clance in the 1970s. Basically, imposter syndrome is the creeping sensation that you are a fraud. You live with anxiety that you will be found out and your 'shortcomings' will be exposed. You think that any success is attr
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